And so it begins

I picked up Moose from daycare the other day and went through my normal routine. Grab his jacket, check for dirty clothes, make sure he has clean extra clothes, pop my head in the class and check his tickets, then clean out his pocket/cubby.

And there was an extra note in his pocket that day.

“Mr & Mrs Bee,
Moose has had a very sad day at school. We have started back on the ticket system (not tickets pulled=treat, 3 tickets pulled=sad note home). Moose has had trouble following directions, such as at clean-up time and circle time. He has also told all three teachers ‘NO’ when asked to do things and has stuck out his tongue out in response to myself putting him in time out. Moose is usually so eager to help and listen. I hate having to send this sad note home, but do want to keep you in touch as to how his day has been.
Ms J”

SO.

Right. This may be bad but it is a little gratifying for him to act badly for someone else besides me. It has really sucked to have a horrible couple hours with him, cart him over to Mimi’s. Then for me to pick him up later and she to say, ‘Oh he has been an ABSOLUTE ANGEL, why in the world would you imply otherwise!?...”

Coincidentally I ran in to Ms J on my way to pick up Moose from the gym (preschool’s philosophy is to hype them up as much as possible then send them home talking a mile a minute, so Mommy can’t think straight) and her and I discussed the note a bit. She had obviously not wanted to send the note and it was terribly awkward.

I actually wondered if his was the first one she had had to send home. Maybe not, maybe it was all me.

But I really wasn’t embarrassed at all, I told her he was doing all the same things at home for us too. That we were giving him time out and taking toys away as we saw fit. At least he tantrums have (basically) disappeared.

Each day since I have really talked up the behavior, and mentioned the specific things we Don’t Want To Do, Being Nice To Our Friends and Doing What We Are Told.

Not that I typically stand at my car and throw him into their arms, I’m just taking a bit more time to prepare him for the day, before I leave. And he has done better the last couple days as far as pulling tickets. Only one each day.

Hopefully this is not the start of how Bad Kids and Bullies happen. I’m not cool with that.

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